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There was a time and a place in his career when Dale Earnhardt Jr. could relax and be himself at a race track.
Believe it or not.
I first met Junior at Watkins Glen in 1996. He wore a plain white uniform. He had no sponsors to speak of, at least not anything like today. I had no trouble in setting up an interview that weekend, and if I didn't exactly waltz into the lounge of his transporter and start talking, it was something very close to it.
My memories of Junior's time in the Busch Series are many. There was the flip at Daytona in the first race of his first full-time year. There was the night he dominated a race at South Boston, only to be penalized for rough driving after he thumped Joe Bessey. Something he said that night has always stuck with me.
He said he was nothing you couldn't find at any Saturday night bullring. It wasn't a false humility. It was deeply felt. You could tell he was thankful for the opportunity he'd been given.
Oh, there's more. I was there the weekend he broke his shoulder blade during practice at Milwaukee, then came back to finish third in the next day's race. I can still remember the look on a fellow reporter's face as Junior ushered me -- and me alone -- into the lounge of his transporter to talk about the accident.
There was the night my son, Richard, and I were sitting in the media center at Gateway when Junior walked in, looking for a copy of the paper for which I worked.
"Where's that piece of crap you write for, Houston?" Junior barked.
"Why? You can't read," I shot back.
After Junior finally found his paper and left, Richard looked at me and said, "Dad ... Dale Earnhardt Jr. reads YOUR newspaper."
The thing that stands out most is this ... my wife, Jeanie, had a miscarriage in November 1998. It was the darkest week of our marriage. The hurt was incredible, and I missed the next weekend's race at Homestead, the season finale in which Junior would clinch his first Busch Series championship.
We'd left home for a brief time on Saturday, and Jeanie called to check our messages. We had one.
It was Junior.
"Don't worry about anything, Rick," Junior said. "I'll work around your schedule. You take care of what you need to take care of, and we'll talk when you get the chance. And ... I'm sorry to hear about what happened."
After that, there was no debate with Jeanie. She WOULD be going to the interview, so a week or so later, Jeanie, Junior and I had dinner at this little place in Mooresville strip mall. Junior and I talked "on the record" for about 45 minutes, and though I fully expected him to bolt as soon as I clicked my tape recorder off, he sat there for nearly an hour afterward, just shooting the breeze.
I honestly don't believe that he would've left then, but he was headed to Matt Kenseth's house to meet a girl he hoped to take to the banquet.
"If I don't have a date," he said, "I'm gonna look like an idiot."
Weeks later, Jeanie and I happened to be at a Japanese restaurant when Junior, Hank Parker Jr. and Lyndon Amick walked in. They saw us, and Junior immediately came over to say hi ... a regular guy saying hello to regular people. He kissed Jeanie on the cheek, then turned to leave. The back of his T-shirt ... the back of his T-shirt read, "Kiss my ass."
Junior being Junior.
He'd said something at dinner that night in Mooresville. I kidded him about being a future superstar, that there would come a time when he wouldn't have time for the "little people".
"Awwwww ... Rick. If you EVER have any trouble talking to me, you can kick my ass," he said emphatically.
There's only one problem these days. I can't get close enough to Junior to kick his ass. Thing is, I completely understand. I cannot imagine what it must be like to be Dale Earnhardt Jr. these days. He inherited a fanbase that placed its expectations squarely on his shoulders, rightly or wrongly. He was forced to grieve in front of millions of people. He has had huge sponsorships and been pulled and tugged and hustled from one place to the next. He has had private family squabbles become very public.
One of these days Junior and I will sit down, if for no other reason than to catch up ... and remember the good ol' days in the Busch Series.
And don't worry, Junior. I won't, in fact, kick your ass.